Founder’s Blog: On The Sidelines 11.19.15
Updated: November 19, 2015
BY DR. JACK WELCH
Get in the Game!
Get in the game. Play hard and do your best. “NO coach, if I do something wrong someone might say something bad about me.” Yes, it is easier to second guess than it is to “play the game”.
Complaining comes naturally for us. In a recent article by Jessica Hullinger on complaining, she says according to research during an average conversation, people lob complaints at each other about once a minute. There’s a social reason for that. “Nothing unites people more strongly than a common dislike,” says Trevor Blake, author of “Three Simple Steps”. “The easiest way to build friendship and communicate is through something negative,” said Hullinger.
Have ever noticed how the people with nothing to lose are usually the biggest critics of others that are performing. Instead of recognizing the effort of the child in the game, the critic speaks negatively about “what should have transpired”.
I love to watch little league players. They hustle, play with energy and have fun! How the parents and fans scream at them though, is a little over the edge.
When I watch the little league games I am amazed at what comes forth from the stands. You should hear how knowledgeable the people in the stands are. Wow, it seems like they know every play to run on offense and how the defense should stop every play the other team runs. Of course it is always after the play when you can hear “what should have been done”.
I constantly reiterate the fact teams have to stick together, be one unit with one heart beat and not listen or think about the negative. Bud Wilkinson, former University of Oklahoma icon head coach, said “We compete not so much against an opponent, but against ourselves. The real test is this: Did I make my effort on every play?” I also like the saying, “Success is not owned, it is leased and the rent is due every day!”
One of the hard things about coaching young people is they hear so much criticism from home, friends and community members. If a player is a “backup” many parents blame the coach instead of recognizing the talent of the starter. It is always easier to criticize than to admit the truth.
I believe Theodore Roosevelt said it best about the critic when he wrote about “The Man in the Arena”. Roosevelt said, “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
I enjoy being around competitors. The people who get in the game. The people who have backbone, intestinal fortitude and grit. Keep it “True Blue”. Go ‘Dawgs!
Thought for the week, “The individual activity of one man with backbone will do more than a thousand men with a mere wishbone.” William J. H. Boetcker